I caught up with a friend of mine I hadn’t seen for 20 years. We were discussing music and the arts and talking business and how to make it work. My friend runs a dance studio and was talking about how her business has changed.

We can easily get caught up in thinking that what we are doing is all about us or all about me.

The dance teacher suddenly made a comment that stopped the conversation. She said that she had been to a weekend self-discovery retreat and had learnt that everything is not all about her. When she applied this philosophy to her dance studio, it changed everything. The business suddenly started to thrive, grow and become successful.  I had to ask her to explain more.

This same philosophy can be applied to music.

When you realise that as a performer, as a songwriter and as a musician, it is not ‘all about me’, then you can direct the attention to where it really should be.

It is really about your fans, about the people who listen to your music. They are the ones it is really about. Being self-absorbed can stop things from happening. It can drain all your energy into making you feel good instead of making everyone else feel good.

Directing your efforts away from yourself and towards other people can dramatically change what you do, why you do what you do and how you do things. If you can put yourself in the shoes of your fans, you can start to understand where they are coming from and what makes them tick.

Realising it is not all about you gives you the freedom to remove your biased and tunnel vision view of what you are doing and see what it looks like from the other side.

When it’s not all about you, it then becomes all about other people, and other people are your audience, your fans and the people that listen to your music.

I know it’s a bit of a mind flip, but it does make sense.

Got my heart, on my sleeve, take a look and see, 
that’s all you need to know about me

Melanie Dyer | All you need to know about me https://www.xsnoise.com.au/melaniedyer/

Discovering yourself questions

Write down your answers to the following questions. Your answers will help you discover a little bit more about yourself and where you came from. In turn this will help shape your future and the next decisions that you will make.

  1. What music experiences have you had so far that helped you arrive where you are now?
  2. Who are they key influences in your life?
  3. Have you started making confident decisions about small things?
  4. What are you afraid of?
  5. What little steps can you do to overcome these fears?